When there is love, there is no desire to compete with or dominate the other. Why, you may ask? Well, in a way, the other is you. When there is love, how you value the other is the mirror of how you value yourself. So in essence, if you find you are always putting yourself in front of the other, then there is no love. What exist is EGO – and an OVERLY inflated one to boot. You are a special person.